Why I Recently Changed my Opinion on Fate

In Southeast Asia by Daniel S. Johnson4 Comments

“Time [is] our only real commodity” Rolf Potts, Vagabonding: An Uncommon Guide to the Art of Long-Term World Travel

I sat on the tall curb in front of the 7-11 and stared down at what I had written. The pocket-sized Moleskine notebook lay open in my hands, bathed in the soft green-yellow glow of the store’s neon sign. Every few seconds a motorbike or taxi hummed by on the street in front of me. As they passed, headlights reflected off the fresh black ink and illuminated the self-reflective tumble of words I had etched on the page moments before:

“I can think of no situation in which I consistently find myself with greater mental clarity, self-assurance, and contentment than when I am writing.”

I paused momentarily to gaze at the passing traffic before reflexively putting my pen to paper once more.

“Upon writing the above, I am forced to admit that I would be lying to myself if I said that writing wasn’t my greatest passion.”

I gaped at the pronouncement, wondering how a statement could appear so surprising and yet so completely obvious at the same time. The words washed over me and through me until their significance reached full saturation in my consciousness, and at that moment, I felt lighter. A layer of anxiety I didn’t even know existed evaporated in an instant, and I was left feeling decidedly closer to…me.


I’d been wandering the canal-lined perimeter of the Old City in Chiang Mai, Thailand for almost two hours before I found myself outside that 7-11. Observations and self-analyzing anecdotes had been flowing through my pen with unprecedented ease over the course of the late-November evening, culminating finally in the zenith of self-fulfillment described above.

Chiang Mai canal at night. The aforementioned 7-11 is off to the left somewhere.

Chiang Mai canal at night. The aforementioned 7-11 is off to the left somewhere.

Until that moment, I regarded “fate” — the idea that our paths through life are predetermined and unalterable — as antithetical to my belief system. When a cornerstone of my philosophy about self-improvement is that we are each solely responsible for our own happiness and success, it seemed wholly unproductive and disempowering to believe that the future was in any way fixed.

Over the past several months, I’ve talked to numerous people (ranging from close friends back home to newly-met backpackers on the road) about their directions in life and the nature of their true passions. The end result of these conversations has been an alteration in my conception of fate and its significance in our lives.

Rather than thinking of “destiny” as an externally-imposed arrangement of our past, present and future, I see it now as something quite different: an internal, uniquely-generated “natural frequency.” Your frequency arises from an infinitely complex combination of genetics, brain chemistry, upbringing, and present circumstances, and at any particular moment in time, the absolute center of your natural frequency is your true calling. The closer we get to perfect attunement with our calling — what Paul Coelho, author of The Alchemist, calls one’s “personal legend” — the less unease and general anxiety we should feel.

Anxiety and unease are categorically negative emotions. These feelings suck, so it behooves us to minimize their presence in our lives. By that reasoning, if a certain action causes your overall anxiety to decrease (for example, you pick up a hobby or side-project which you find more fulfilling than your normal work), you should be inclined to repeat that action. In theory, this internal mechanism should guide us continuously closer to our perfect frequencies as we figure out which activities are personally satisfying and which ones aren’t.

It’s in this sense that I believe in fate — if you listen to yourself and explore your options and progress towards your center, you’ll be following a path dictated by your natural frequency.

The main problem here, and the reason why I don’t believe in “absolute” fate, is that it seems like few people ever actually find their calling. There are many possible reasons for this, including (but not limited to) a perceived shortage of the resources we need to explore other options, an absence of support from our family, friends or culture, or simply a lack of belief that we deserve to be happy and anxiety-free.

Thai gentleman in Chiang Mai playing electric violin in the middle of a bustling night market. No one can accuse this man of not doing him.

Thai gentleman in Chiang Mai playing electric violin in the middle of a bustling night market. No one can accuse this man of not doing him.

The obstacles we face are varied and abundant. There is, however, one behavioral pattern that’s common amongst the vast majority of those who never find their calling: inaction.

When I think about the shortness of our lives, few notions sound as appealing to me as being able to declare on my deathbed that I’ve enjoyed a satisfying and meaningful existence with minimal regret. If you have a similar desire in terms of your personal legacy, then your course of action is clear:

Incessantly pursue your natural frequency to the best of your ability — starting now.

It may seem like an overwhelming challenge at first, and sacrifices will likely be necessary. But if the alternative is a working life characterized by mediocrity and dissatisfaction (which is liable to spill over and effect your personal life as well), don’t you owe it to yourself and the people around you to strive for more?

If you have no idea what your natural frequency is or where to begin your search, now is the time to look inward, be honest with yourself about what makes you happy, and start making changes if you think you could do better. Never underestimate how much a small alteration in your routine or assumptions can strengthen your self-awareness.

As your positive changes continue to accumulate and build off each other, it’ll become clear that you’re on the right track. Talking about your pursuits will energize you. Your days will start to feel like individual contributions to a larger dream rather than a homogenous slog. Unidentifiable worries or vague senses of impending doom will occur with diminishing frequency, replaced instead with confidence in your future and an invigorating sense of forward momentum. The small voice in the back of your head that’s been leading you along this path will grow more and more prominent. And one day, all the knowledge you’ve gained from countless missteps and corrections in your trajectory will crystallize into a deep awareness, and that inner voice will become synonymous with who you are.


While that night in Chiang Mai was a significant step in the right direction for me, I’m still a long way from landing on my perfect natural frequency. My long-term plans are riddled with unknowns, and I expect quite a bit more fine tuning will be required before I dial in to my true calling (which, I realize, is also likely to morph with me as my maturity and circumstances change over time).

One thing I’m sure of is this: in the six weeks since I acknowledged writing as a passion I had to pursue, my anxiety has remained at an all-time low, and I’ve never been so excited about how I’ll apply my interests to my future endeavors. And I feel vindicated in the realization that, were it not for the major environmental changes I made upon recognizing my incompatibility with my previous career path, my moment of clarity in Thailand may never have occurred at all.

So I’m going to chase this compulsion and see where it leads — because when life is short, your “fate” is the only thing worth pursuing.

The chair in Luang Prabang where I spent the better part of a week working on my first blog post. It was a labor of love.

The chair in Luang Prabang where I spent the better part of a week working on my first blog post. It was a labor of love.

Comments

  1. lisa

    You are amazing…truly. I have read countless blogs (an obsession actually) and have never felt as connected as to what I just read. Honestly I needed to read all of it as I currently have been questioning my future path.
    I have no doubt that our meeting was divinely inspired on some level and I am grateful for that.

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      Daniel Johnson

      Thank you so much Lisa! That is honestly one of the more satisfying comments I’ve received on my writing, and it completely validates one of the main reasons I started this blog. If you’re interested in going deeper into the subjects of self-awareness and personal development, I’d highly recommend Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It’s a classic and influenced a lot of what I discussed above.

  2. Alan Wexler

    Very impressed Daniel. It’s awesome seeing you find your path on the journey…exactly what you hoped for.

    Alan

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      Daniel Johnson

      Thanks Alan! The trip really has met or exceeded essentially all my expectations so far. Excited to see what else I learn about myself before it’s over.

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